Understanding Sex Appeal

What is the je ne sais quas of sex appeal? The dictionary describes it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” You may think that they are the same, but in fact they are not. Lets examine this further.

If a man sees  a cute woman walking down the street wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top for visual impact.  He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but would he take the time for a second look? While sexy and sex appeal are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative  look?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy for the most part will always get attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is eye candy first and foremost, and will seldom get beyond that.  Someone who dresses for  impact can be sexy, but it will seldom lead to someone thinking about you for hours, and that is the major differentiation. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal sex appeal is more than just cute bod, it is more about having poise, and a magnetic charm that emits from a person with a strong self image. When anybody exhibits all these signals they exude an aura that demands recognition by others. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will make whatever she wears look great even if it is an old pair of jeans, and tee-shirt. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always intelligent individuals  with a sense of humour, and who are comfortable with their own sexuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual  who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. It lets people know that they're fun to be with, and this is another trait of sex appeal.

Sex appeal attracts, radiates and commands attention. Females with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  treat each relationship as a fresh new experience and do not expect people to behave like others, either positively or negatively. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal looks for the good in people, and never hesitates to compliment. This appeal is the natural outcome of their loving and sensual nature as people.

Now do you see the differences? It all boils down to this simple observation-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about personal image, self development and stature. Guys will always respond to sexy—no doubt, but its the whole package that will get into his head, and past the eyes.




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The Methods to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of couples these days, forget who they started out being.Many couples forget their roots once they become a couple, they often lose track of the reasons why they bonded in the first place. Why is that? As individuals do we really change that much? I don't think so. So why the drift? Often we just get comfortable and lazy. So, how do we fix this you ask—by nipping it in the bud before it gets to the point of no return.

You should reflect on your relationship and what has changed—likely there was there more kissing, touching, texting and bantering than now . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now. It all used to come so easy with the excitement of having a new partner - do we have to let that excitement die? For a long term relationship to succeed for the long term, a lot of work is required from both parties. Stress is the usual place to put the blame, but that is not always applicable. Many of the issues were probably the ones that made us closer in the first place.


If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. Both partners get into their comfort zone, and let things go,and before you know it their at that point where they never thought they'd be. Men for instance, start ogling more at other women, and making comments about how good looking they are, and they forget about the one their with. Women might take a look at the cute butt of some hot guy, and romanticize about them. The point is we stop complimenting each other, and for the person at the other end of this scenario it can be quite a let down. We make each other feel less attractive, less desirable and less needed. Most times were even afraid to say something for fear of upsetting the other person even though their actions have made us angry. Women you need to speak up, and express your disapproval, and men you need to listen without getting your backs up, and vice versa. We need to always be aware of our partners feelings - to build a lifelong romance takes work, commitment, understanding and tolerance of each others viewpoints. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:


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      Make a conscious effort to compliment your partner on a daily basis- you will be surprised at how how much a compliment means to your partner, and how good it makes them feel
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      Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
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      Men stop ogling and women stop checking out cute butts.
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      Dishonesty is the root of all relationship dissension – make a habit of telling the truth, even if it might lead to embarrassing explanations.
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      No matter how busy you are, and other than sleeping at night, make sure you set aside at least an hour a day to be alone together
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      Communicate- tell your partner how you feel, and work things out before they become worse than they are.
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      Start your day off with a kiss and a statement that re-enforces your love and commitment to each other.
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      Be relaxed and do not be afraid of public displays of affection – some public kissing and tenderness will exhibit to the world how you care about your partner and broadcast to them that you love them and want to make sure that everyone knows it
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      Don't be so serious...Laugh, smile, you know that saying “Partners that laugh together stay together” Its so true.....
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      Never go to bed angry – talk it out and work it out – the best thing for a relationship is a kiss before you go to sleep. The second best thing is sex before you go to sleep. You cannot have the second without the first.


Relationships all have their ups, and downs, but if you have heart, and desire to make it work it will blossom into something special. So, don't let that spark creep away- follow the above rules, and create some of your own a long the way....just have fun if you can dream about it then you can achieve it..

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Swingers

Why would couples want to become swingers, why would they want to have sex with someone else especially if they're supposed to be in love with each other?Well that's because these couples do not associate having a sexual relationship with someone other then their spouse as love; its strictly sex. Swingers are so comfortable in their relationship with their partners that they show their love by not holding their partner back from new sexual experiences. Basically, for swingers, being with another partner is all about sex, not romance. The core relationship for swingers is what gives their lives stability. It is almost a friends with benefits situation, but the core relationship is based on romance. If anything their relationship with other people falls into the friends with benefits category.

Swinging is a personal choice for many couples who often view sexual intercourse with anybody other than their significant other as recreational play. Some people however get into swinging for the wrong reasons. It could be that their partner is into swinging and they want make them happy by getting into it themselves.  Perhaps their relationship is failing so that the excitement is long gone; so they get into swinging hoping to bring back what they once had. Getting into swinging for these reason's is not the route you want to take because it usually just leads to a breakup. Successful swinging requires a loving, and not possessive relationship between both partners in the relationship. 

 
To emphasize the point, swinging is a lifestyle for couples who have very loving and close relationships. Mutual understanding and a strong foundation are vital factors in being a swinger. It is also very important to have a partner that understands why you want to enter this lifestyle. Swingers require open and strong communications with each other to be successful. Those who have equal understanding will learn that swinging can be and invigorating and relationship stimulating adventure. Swinging can appeal to your sexual and recreational needs, including fantasies and desires that you can explore together rather than apart. Swinging is very much about sharing experiences with each other which in turn will strengthen your sexual and emotional growth.

Just remember that it takes two to tango well.
Swinging is, and continues to be, increasingly popular for couples as well as all races. Swinging began in the early 50s in the rich suburbs of the United States. At that time swinging was not a common thing and the only way back then to meet other swingers would either be through news paper ads or through other swingers.

All of this has changed drastically through the years and especially since the launch of the Internet. At this time, not only are there swingers clubs in most major cities, you are now able to go online and find dozens of swingers sites to meet new friends. These sites offer you the chance to connect to and meet other swingers like yourselves who are interested in getting together for a good time. So if you happen to be a swinger or want to get into swinging, here is the site for you:

Open Relationships
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