Mature Online Dating Works!

I was in my early fifties and had been divorced for a couple of years. In that time I had not connected with anybody, so, like many other people nowadays, I turned to online dating. I had always assumed that internet dating was something that just younger people did, so I really did not expect very much. Like I said, I was desperate and could not think of anything else to try. I actually was not even going to try online dating, but my friends and sisters sort of twisted my arm to do it. I created a profile that said a bit about myself. I was careful to leave out anything that would let someone find my home or place of work. I am such a Luddite with computers that I had to actually get a friend to upload the photos that my sister selected for my profile. At that point, I just sat back and waited to see what would happen, not expecting too much.

It did not take too long before I was in the thick of things, getting responses, emailing people and setting up dates to meet people if they passed the test I made up for myself. As I got further into it, I decided that there were a few guys that I wanted to meet in person. Chatting and emailing online is one thing, but you need to meet to know if there is any real chemistry between you. I used a restaurant a few blocks from where I worked as my rendezvous. Since I knew some of the staff, I felt safer there than any other place I could think of. With all the e-mails, messages, in person meetings and phone calls I was exhausted.But I forced myself to stick it out. I wasn’t sure how long I could keep this pace up, but I was determined that after a twenty year relationship that ended two years ago I was not going to spend the rest of my life alone.

I felt most comfortable in my life being part of a long term relationship. I thrived on that and really wanted to find someone to have in my life again. I noticed that even though I was still talking to several men, one of them seemed to be on my mind continuously. His profile showed that he was not self absorbed and it was very well written. Articulate but concise. He seemed to be really in touch with the so called “feminine side” of himself. I was surprised about how often he asked me how I felt about things. When you talk to most men about things that are troubling you, they instantly try to tell you how to fix it. He was not like that. He would often talk to me for a long time delving into my feelings about things before ever venturing an opinion. My first instinct was that he was gay and just pulling my leg, but I later realized that hew was the genuine article. He was just a very empathic person who cared about everybody. He could not stand that fact that some people treated women like second class citizens. In fact, he took it as a personal affront. He told me that he had not always been so open minded, but he had spent many years in Europe, and had seen what can happen when people let outside cultures influence society's mores. He had been transferred back to our city fairly recently.

I had traveled to Europe several times. On top of this, we both shared a love of most winter sports. We often chatted about our impression of various cities, and which ski resorts did we like the best.  His picture had looked a little fuzzy so it was difficult to see what he looked like, but I was willing to throw caution to the wind and talk to him anyway. When we first decided to talk over the phone, I was nervous about giving him my number. I convinced him to give me his instead. At first I was too nervous to call him after he gave me his number. I finally did get around to calling him, but it took me a while. It was good that I did.

“He was fantastic, charming so sweet and such a gentleman. He was just so amazing. In real life he was even better than online. So sweet, and always a gentleman. He turned out to be an incredibly sweet and charming guy. Always a gentleman. For that first date we met at a nice little restaurant that we were both familiar with. I got there first, worried that it would make me look needy, but I could not help myself. I am compulsive about being early to everything. My biggest concern was that we would not click. As I sat trying to not look to eager as I gazed at the door, in he walked. He was simply stunning! I managed to pull my jaw off the table by the time he got there. He was just so much more than I expected. He was tall and slim. Dark hair with just a touch of grey at the temples. His suit fit him like a glove. What a picture. I was in complete awe. We talked and laughed and shared some personal stories. Time was streaming by but I could not stop it. I did not want it to have to end. It was too bad that we were only planning a meal together. The time was going by too fast.  Later on he paid the bill and drove me right to my front door. He then leaned over and kissed me on the cheek. I was on cloud nine.

We had several more dates after that, and it seemed that every date was better then the one before. But something began to bother me. I had not been exactly truthful about my age in my profile. My friends had convinced me to exaggerate a little. Just take a few years off and when he finds out later, well maybe it won't matter. I had only shaved three years off of my age, No big deal. But nobody likes to be lied to. It is a breach of trust, and once broken can become a huge issue in a relationship. It was not good that I had started our relationship with a lie. I knew that I needed to tell him the truth, but I kept waiting for the right time to present itself.

He took me to a little club he liked for a drink one night. The waiter is a friend of his so when he asked to see my I.D I knew that Max (my honey) had put him up to it. So just for fun I took my drivers licence out to show him, we all had a good chuckle about it. Max put out his hand and the waiter just passed him my license. He glanced at it, and then took a second look. He stared at me and said, “Wow! It says here you are fifty four!” I just sat there not knowing what to say. Then he started laughing like an idiot! He said, “Well I guess the joke is on me. I lied about my age too!” As it turned out he was older than he stated in his profile. It seems he's two years older than me and not two years younger. We spent the next few minutes talking and laughing about the fact that we both had been caught.

We dated for about six months. In the wee hours of the morning, he called me. I was startled out of a very deep sleep where I was dreaming about cavorting around with him in our mutual all-togethers. He said he needed to talk to me right now, and that It couldn’t wait. He would not tell me anything over the phone. I was on pins and needless for a half hour before he walked in the door, whereupon he said, “I need to tell you something that will not hold anymore!”

I braced myself for the worst, even opening a box of Kleenex because I was sure I was going to need them. As it turns out, I did need the tissues. He got down on one knee, told me I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, that he had been waiting all of his life to find me, and asked me to marry him. Needless to day, after some initial sobbing in happiness, I agreed!

We have been married three years, and so far its been wonderful, successful and fantastic, I feel like such a lucky women to have Max in my life. We are on a perpetual honeymoon. And to think I found him on an online dating site. Someplace that I had thought of as a last chance place to meet someone!

The saga of Max and I is just starting. But I am eternally grateful to the online dating industry for bringing us together. No matter what you think about them right now, don't ever be shy or embarrassed about joining an online dating site. In my opinion, they are the future of courtship.
Below I have posted a link to one of the resource sites that I used. The sites referenced there are some of the best and are well organized. There are so many to choose from you are sure to find what you want. Good luck in your search!

Relationships Advice for Women

Why Online Dating Sites are So Popular

If there's one thing the Internet has introduced us to that we love, it's online dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. We can browse pictures before we even talk to them, centre on the cuties and ignore the rest. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favour of – none of that crap. No more worries about that creepy guy in the corner approaching you just before last call. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that baffles me about online dating, unlike dating, is how brash and open the profiles are. Honesty is good in any relationship, but many people in online dating sites give you their life history in their profiles. They are likely doing themselves a disservice in this regard. Maybe it's just me. Maybe those are the sorts of things you want to know about before hand so you can dodge the proverbial bullet, so to speak. It's hard to say. I'm on the fence about these sorts of things, myself. On one hand, I like to know what I'm getting in to, on the other, sometimes there's such thing as too much information.

Something else to consider is your comfort level in meeting someone that you have interacted with online for the first time. This is not unlike a situation where you have interacted with someone professionally by email or over the phone. When it comes to your first face-to-face meeting though, there is always some trepidation, especially if something important is riding on it. When meeting someone from a dating site in person for the first time, the stakes are high. After all, your whole personal future may be riding on it. Anxiety is bound to be high.  A good tip for those of you who want to go ahead with online dating, but are worried about that: tell a friend of yours where you'll be, who you'll be with and keep your cellphone on. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. To be doubly sure, stay away from totally free dating sites like OKcupid or Plentyoffish. Not that they are bad in themselves, but if you stick to sites where people have to pay to join, there is less chance of running into a molester. Paying just leaves an easy financial footprint for police to follow, so predators tend to avoid paid sites

Other than that, I can only say good things about meeting people online. If you take the right precautions, you can have a great time. Meeting people in person for the first time is always a bit of a rush. I mean, you think you know them pretty good by this point, but you can always be surprised. I met someone once with a distinctive body odour that I could not get past. Not hold your nose BO, but rather some subtle scent that may have been genetic or something that they ate regularly. Either way, it was a turn off for me even though I liked them? I am also nervous too. After all, this could be the love of my life that I am meeting, so I tend to get into a bit of a nervous sweat. Other than that, like I said, I have nothing but good things to say about it.

I find that meeting people online is a lot easier, and from my perspective, better. Instead of it being all about looks, they see it as a way to talk to someone openly in a comfortable place. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I really like the conversations when you first start talking to someone online. There is just so much to learn about them and there is so much for them to learn about you. This is also a good time to look for inconsistencies in what they say, because that is a sure sign of someone to be wary of.

I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but when we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. No matter what you are looking for, you are sure to find someone who meets your laundry list on an online dating site, especially if you are like most people and join more than one.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Online Dating

The Best Gift for a Single Father

It that time of the year when most women have been thinking about their parents for a while.

Is there something that you could give a gift to besides your immediate parents? 

Lets look outside of your immediate family and broaden your sights to include your immediate circle of friends.

Is there a single father that you know who is so tied up with his kids that he never seems to get a chance to get out on his own? Almost every woman has at least one. A great guy who just does not have the time, inclination or money to do the bar scene anymore looking for action. In other words, a great husband for the right woman.

So are you getting excited about trying your hand at matchmaking yet?

But you cannot act on your urge because you have run out of contacts to set him up with.

So why not try a significantly different approach that will achieve the same objective?

A situation where he can select the next person to go out with!
A gift that gives him an opportunity to communicate with lots of women who may want to be a mother to his children!
A gift that helps him seek company by communicating with women who are not the paid telephone chat-line bimbos that you see in TV advertising!

Seems hard to believe? Well it is as easy as signing him up to an online dating site.

Unfortunately you have heard how unsuccessful many men are at finding someone on an online dating site. What most men do not know though is that the reason they are unsuccessful is that men are just generally really bad at understanding what it is about them that women find attractive!

Enter you!

The perfect gift for your single dad friend would be to purchase him a membership to an online dating site.  To add a personal touch, you create the account for them. Set up the profile, select a few of those great pictures that you have of him enjoying himself with friends, and then write up profile text that would make any woman weep with joy to read.

After all, only a woman knows how to truly reach the soul of another woman.

So throw your friend a bone.

Spend a few bucks, and a few minutes to set him up with the gift of a lifetime. Help him find a new life partner.

It is truly the ultimate gift!

For a way to get started, check out this link for ideas of the best online dating sites to select from:

Online Dating Sites

Understanding Sex Appeal

What is the je ne sais quas of sex appeal? The dictionary describes it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” You may think that they are the same, but in fact they are not. Lets examine this further.

If a man sees  a cute woman walking down the street wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top for visual impact.  He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but would he take the time for a second look? While sexy and sex appeal are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative  look?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy for the most part will always get attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is eye candy first and foremost, and will seldom get beyond that.  Someone who dresses for  impact can be sexy, but it will seldom lead to someone thinking about you for hours, and that is the major differentiation. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal sex appeal is more than just cute bod, it is more about having poise, and a magnetic charm that emits from a person with a strong self image. When anybody exhibits all these signals they exude an aura that demands recognition by others. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will make whatever she wears look great even if it is an old pair of jeans, and tee-shirt. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always intelligent individuals  with a sense of humour, and who are comfortable with their own sexuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual  who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. It lets people know that they're fun to be with, and this is another trait of sex appeal.

Sex appeal attracts, radiates and commands attention. Females with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  treat each relationship as a fresh new experience and do not expect people to behave like others, either positively or negatively. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal looks for the good in people, and never hesitates to compliment. This appeal is the natural outcome of their loving and sensual nature as people.

Now do you see the differences? It all boils down to this simple observation-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about personal image, self development and stature. Guys will always respond to sexy—no doubt, but its the whole package that will get into his head, and past the eyes.




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Why Use an Online Dating Site

You just have to love one of the best aspects of the Internet, and that is Online Dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. In fact, you can browse profiles, short list the ones who interest you, and even lurk on chat rooms to see how they interact with other people before you even have to make any overtures in direct communication. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favor of – none of that crap. You no longer have to dodge the "just before closing time" desperation moves from people that you would just as soon avoid. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that I find a bit strange about online dating is the openness of the profiles. People will tell you so much up front that quite frankly I would prefer to find out in bits and pieces later. You will find that many people who join an online dating site will give you a full discourse on their personal lives and desires. Maybe it's just me. Maybe those are the sorts of things you want to know about before hand so you can dodge the proverbial bullet, so to speak. It's hard to say. I'm on the fence about these sorts of things, myself. On one hand, I like to know what I'm getting in to, on the other, sometimes there's such thing as too much information.

There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time.  There have been a few instances of problems with meeting people on dating sites, but probably much less than what happens when you pick up someone at a bar. It is sensible to take precautions like keeping the venue in a public place and keeping it public. Meet for a drink or a coffee the first time you get together rather than for a full date. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. Avoid totally free dating sites. You will find more predators in totally free dating sites because they can contact you with a totally assumed alias. Paid sites are more difficult for predators to use bogus information on, so they usually avoid them

Other than that, I can only say good things about meeting people online. If you take the right precautions, you can have a great time. There's also the added mystery: what do they sound like (unless you have already seen them via anonymous video chat), what will they be wearing? I am also always nervous as to how I will measure up in turn. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.

Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Although not the majority, some people are happy talking online for days, weeks and even months before they meet and they swear up and down that it makes a better, stronger date or relationship. Personally, I love the conversation bits. Starting off with a few topics (music, TV, movies etc.) and growing into a full blown conversation frenzy about all kinds of things like work, friends, funny stories etc. Some people worry that if you start off that way, you'll run out of things to talk about – I think it's quite the opposite. When I get started with people, I can't run out of things to talk about...all the e-mails back and forth have done is put ideas in each others heads and told us all we need to know to keep things going.

I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but whne we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. In a real way though, whatever sort of person you're interested in meeting, friend, date, husband/wife, whatever, online is a great way to go. With all the free online dating sites and common interest forums, you can find whoever you're looking for.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:

Online Dating Sites