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Showing posts with label meeting friends online. Show all posts

Friday, January 13, 2012

Why Online Dating Sites are So Popular



If there's one thing the Internet has introduced us to that we love, it's online dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. We can browse pictures before we even talk to them, centre on the cuties and ignore the rest. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favour of – none of that crap. No more worries about that creepy guy in the corner approaching you just before last call. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that baffles me about online dating, unlike dating, is how brash and open the profiles are. Honesty is good in any relationship, but many people in online dating sites give you their life history in their profiles. They are likely doing themselves a disservice in this regard. Maybe it's just me. Maybe those are the sorts of things you want to know about before hand so you can dodge the proverbial bullet, so to speak. It's hard to say. I'm on the fence about these sorts of things, myself. On one hand, I like to know what I'm getting in to, on the other, sometimes there's such thing as too much information.

Something else to consider is your comfort level in meeting someone that you have interacted with online for the first time. This is not unlike a situation where you have interacted with someone professionally by email or over the phone. When it comes to your first face-to-face meeting though, there is always some trepidation, especially if something important is riding on it. When meeting someone from a dating site in person for the first time, the stakes are high. After all, your whole personal future may be riding on it. Anxiety is bound to be high.  A good tip for those of you who want to go ahead with online dating, but are worried about that: tell a friend of yours where you'll be, who you'll be with and keep your cellphone on. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. To be doubly sure, stay away from totally free dating sites like OKcupid or Plentyoffish. Not that they are bad in themselves, but if you stick to sites where people have to pay to join, there is less chance of running into a molester. Paying just leaves an easy financial footprint for police to follow, so predators tend to avoid paid sites

Other than that, I can only say good things about meeting people online. If you take the right precautions, you can have a great time. Meeting people in person for the first time is always a bit of a rush. I mean, you think you know them pretty good by this point, but you can always be surprised. I met someone once with a distinctive body odour that I could not get past. Not hold your nose BO, but rather some subtle scent that may have been genetic or something that they ate regularly. Either way, it was a turn off for me even though I liked them? I am also nervous too. After all, this could be the love of my life that I am meeting, so I tend to get into a bit of a nervous sweat. Other than that, like I said, I have nothing but good things to say about it.

I find that meeting people online is a lot easier, and from my perspective, better. Instead of it being all about looks, they see it as a way to talk to someone openly in a comfortable place. Most people will meet someone for the first time within a window of 2 to 6 weeks or so. Going to fast is dangerous, and waiting too long will likely result in never meeting them at all. Personally, I really like the conversations when you first start talking to someone online. There is just so much to learn about them and there is so much for them to learn about you. This is also a good time to look for inconsistencies in what they say, because that is a sure sign of someone to be wary of.

I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but when we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. No matter what you are looking for, you are sure to find someone who meets your laundry list on an online dating site, especially if you are like most people and join more than one.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:
Online Dating


Saturday, September 10, 2011

Understanding Sex Appeal

What is the je ne sais quas of sex appeal? The dictionary describes it as”the ability to excite people sexually”, but dictionaries also describe sexy as being”attractive in a sexual way.” You may think that they are the same, but in fact they are not. Lets examine this further.

If a man sees  a cute woman walking down the street wearing a mini skirt, and low cut top for visual impact.  He may trip over his tongue because she looks sexy, but would he take the time for a second look? While sexy and sex appeal are often blurry at the boundaries it is quite common to see someone as described above. So what do you have to do to get a more appreciative  look?

Men tend to focus on what is currently in front of their eyes, and there will always be another sexy girl around the corner. Sexy for the most part will always get attention,but unlike sex appeal they will likely forget what a merely sexy woman looks like within a few minutes. Sexy is eye candy first and foremost, and will seldom get beyond that.  Someone who dresses for  impact can be sexy, but it will seldom lead to someone thinking about you for hours, and that is the major differentiation. Sexy is the whipped cream without the pie.

Sex appeal sex appeal is more than just cute bod, it is more about having poise, and a magnetic charm that emits from a person with a strong self image. When anybody exhibits all these signals they exude an aura that demands recognition by others. This magnetic glow makes those people around you feel good too. A woman with sex appeal will make whatever she wears look great even if it is an old pair of jeans, and tee-shirt. She knows that it's the woman that makes the clothes not the other way around. She instinctively dresses in a style that will always add to and not detract from the image that she portrays to the public. Women with sex appeal are always intelligent individuals  with a sense of humour, and who are comfortable with their own sexuality. We've all been around an up-beat individual  who seems to smile all the time, and laughs a lot, even when things may be concerning for them. It lets people know that they're fun to be with, and this is another trait of sex appeal.

Sex appeal attracts, radiates and commands attention. Females with sex appeal appreciate you in spite of your faults, they  treat each relationship as a fresh new experience and do not expect people to behave like others, either positively or negatively. They compartmentalize their expectations of each acquaintance individually. Sex appeal looks for the good in people, and never hesitates to compliment. This appeal is the natural outcome of their loving and sensual nature as people.

Now do you see the differences? It all boils down to this simple observation-- if you have learned to love yourself, and others,  it will  emanate into sex appeal as, it is all about personal image, self development and stature. Guys will always respond to sexy—no doubt, but its the whole package that will get into his head, and past the eyes.




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Friday, August 26, 2011

Why Use an Online Dating Site



You just have to love one of the best aspects of the Internet, and that is Online Dating. When you reflect on the entire concept of meeting someone on an Online Dating Site, you just have to admire how much it totally simplifies the entire process of meeting people. In fact, you can browse profiles, short list the ones who interest you, and even lurk on chat rooms to see how they interact with other people before you even have to make any overtures in direct communication. No struggling for an opening gambit, no long silences when you struggle to come up with an answer to their comments dissing something that you feel strongly in favor of – none of that crap. You no longer have to dodge the "just before closing time" desperation moves from people that you would just as soon avoid. Even better is the fact that if you have a bad reaction to them you do not have to take pains to hide your feelings from showing on your face.

One thing that I find a bit strange about online dating is the openness of the profiles. People will tell you so much up front that quite frankly I would prefer to find out in bits and pieces later. You will find that many people who join an online dating site will give you a full discourse on their personal lives and desires. Maybe it's just me. Maybe those are the sorts of things you want to know about before hand so you can dodge the proverbial bullet, so to speak. It's hard to say. I'm on the fence about these sorts of things, myself. On one hand, I like to know what I'm getting in to, on the other, sometimes there's such thing as too much information.

There is another aspect that you need to consider, and that is your personal comfort with meeting people in person for the first time.  There have been a few instances of problems with meeting people on dating sites, but probably much less than what happens when you pick up someone at a bar. It is sensible to take precautions like keeping the venue in a public place and keeping it public. Meet for a drink or a coffee the first time you get together rather than for a full date. Just pretend you are your parents and you are going out for your first date. What kinds of things did they expect you to do? Just take similar precautions and you should be okay. Avoid totally free dating sites. You will find more predators in totally free dating sites because they can contact you with a totally assumed alias. Paid sites are more difficult for predators to use bogus information on, so they usually avoid them

Other than that, I can only say good things about meeting people online. If you take the right precautions, you can have a great time. There's also the added mystery: what do they sound like (unless you have already seen them via anonymous video chat), what will they be wearing? I am also always nervous as to how I will measure up in turn. From my perspective though, this is nothing more than I experience when walking up to a hot somebody in a bar and introducing myself.

Most of my friends feel that meeting someone online is just a better forum for exploring a new relationship. Aside of the initial pre-contact screening where you filter out people with three eyes and stuff, people using online dating sites tend to focus on the intellect and communication first and foremost. This may be largely because you cannot be influenced by pheromones, ambiance, or clothing which might draw you into a relationship with someone that you are just not intellectually compatible with. Although not the majority, some people are happy talking online for days, weeks and even months before they meet and they swear up and down that it makes a better, stronger date or relationship. Personally, I love the conversation bits. Starting off with a few topics (music, TV, movies etc.) and growing into a full blown conversation frenzy about all kinds of things like work, friends, funny stories etc. Some people worry that if you start off that way, you'll run out of things to talk about – I think it's quite the opposite. When I get started with people, I can't run out of things to talk about...all the e-mails back and forth have done is put ideas in each others heads and told us all we need to know to keep things going.

I have met a lot of people on dating sites that ended up just being friends. We had tons in common, but whne we met in person, nothing clicked. Kinda like a sibling reaction. Love them to death, but not in a sexual way. In a real way though, whatever sort of person you're interested in meeting, friend, date, husband/wife, whatever, online is a great way to go. With all the free online dating sites and common interest forums, you can find whoever you're looking for.

Dating sites are just a natural offshoot of what it is that the Internet does best, and that is to connect people and keep people connected, even at a distance. The Internet is not going away any time soon, and as a consequence, neither are dating sites. Just go for it!

If you are interested in online dating sites, but are not sure where to start, then check out this link:

Online Dating Sites