Female Orgasms 101

In Victorian times, most adult females never experienced and orgasm. In actuality, most had no idea what an orgasm was.  Generations of women were raised with a lack of sex education, and usually believed that sex had to be painful, thus ensuring that the were not receptive to any form of pleasure. A twin study climaxing in 2005 reported that one woman in three had never or seldom had an orgasm, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. As you can see, orgasms are rare or non-existent for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm has as frustrating a life as a man with an erectile disfunction.

Now the question is how do we change all this, especially since today's women desire orgasms. Well let's begin by exploring what a female orgasm really is.  Woman experiencing an orgasm is similar to what men achieve-there is a surge of emotion, in a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a throbbing, electric sensation that spreads out through the body.  Rythmiccontractions take place within the pelvic area also encompassing the vaginal walls. One key difference is that women do not have to have a recovery period, and will usually be able to have multiple orgasms with ongoing coital stimulation, usually within 60 to 120 seconds. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the right partner, most women can achieve multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Unlike men, women need the right conditions before they are able to orgasm. For instance:

1) Women  must feel appreciated, and wanted a sensual surrounding
3) A partner whom they really like
4) Being at ease
5) A partner that knows how to stimulate the clitoris

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men should understand that women can have different types of orgasms---the most common is orgasm of the clitoris.  The clitoris is a woman's main sexual pleasure point and can be stimulated orally or with the fingers. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and climaxes in uterus contractions . Another type of orgasm is centered on the G-spot. The G spot is a bit of a chore to find: it is located on the upper wall of the vagina about the length of your index finger in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and on the upper side.  Gentle but firm pressure is required to find the G spot if the woman is not stimulated yet.  It feels like a spongy area about the size of a small bean. The exact size and location can vary slightly from female to female.  When properly manipulated, the G spot will result in a vaginal orgasm.

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In conclusion, sex is something very sensual that will provide both partners with a wonderful rush of pleasurable feelings. The next list is a summary that can help both of you have orgasms regularly:

1) 2)Be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Take it slow- it is not a race
5) Ask her if she likes what you are doing and ask her to tell you what she wants
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will intensify the orgasm and the pleasure for both of you.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Don't make demands: this could spoil the moment

Men should read and practice the techniques in this guide, because more female orgasms are the keys to the kingdom of much more sex.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – nag your partner to read this article, after all, your entire future is at stake!

Good Luck!

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Women Prefer Bad Dudes

So the University of British Columbia (that’s in Canada folks), did a study of just over 1000 people divided evenly between men and women of all ages, and found some rather surprising results. (American Psychological Association Journal "Emotion")
http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/2011-10737-001/

The study had the people look at pictures of people of the opposite sex who had neutral expressions, looked happy, looked shameful, looked proud, or looked brooding. They then rated the attractiveness of each from one to nine.

All women tended to prefer proud, successful looking men, and younger women also rated shameful and brooding men very highly. For some reason, all age groups were not that attracted to pictures of men who were happy.

Likely women are attracted to successful looking guys because of the security that they represent. It would seem that women are looking for a good provider. Bad Boys, on the other hand, with their brooding expressions likely attract females because they think that they can fix them and make them wholesome and happy (hmm -- at which point they would likely have to dump them because women are not that attracted to happy guys – then the guy would be unhappy and brooding again, so some other woman can take a turn at bat).

Bringing this back to our cave man days, a man that was a good provider was a good hunter and had a lot of skins around to keep him warm, thus showing his success. A bad ass dude would be able to take the riches from a good hunter, and thus could also provide. Ideally a good hunter who could kick the ass of any bad dude who tried to rob him would be doubly desirable.

Men dig fun happy women and find proud ladies a turn off. After all, what man in his right mind would want to come home to an uppity know it all.

Women with a shameful expression were also somewhat attractive to men. The shame thing might just be a hint that you have a bit of bad girl in you so they are curious to see just how bad you are.

Taken back to cave man terms, a man spends all his days hunting. He has to keep quiet. He is miserable most of the time and he is full of fly bites. Many days he returns empty handed and is worried about finding more food before they starve. When he gets back to the cave, the last thing he wants to hear about is that there are only berries for supper, what a mess the kids made in the cave and the headache that she has from all their screaming and yelling. And he never wants to hear that it is a good thing she is such a good berry picker because Blurg's lazy wife did not get any berries so he will have no supper.

So what can we derive from this study:

1) For Guys, you need to be a successful looking hard-ass dude with glitter and attitude.
2) For Women, acting like you are better than everyone else, running down other people, or complaining about work all the time are all sure ways to send any guy packing. You need to be seen as a smiling, fun loving optimist, eager to look for the silver lining around any grey clouds in your life, and be willing to try new things. If you cannot pull of the happy face all the time, then the other approach would be to act like you were just caught with your pants down in church. If you look embarrassed or shameful about something, then men think you likely have something to be embarrassed about. They will likely stick around to find out if you can both participate in other potentially "embarrassing" encounters.

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Have Sex – Will Orgasm

In Victorian times, most adult females did not have orgasms. In actuality, a lot of them had no idea what an orgasm was.  Generations of women were raised with rudimentary knowledge of sex, and usually believed that sex had to be painful, thus ensuring that the were not receptive to any form of pleasure. In fact a twin study climaxing in 2005 reported that one woman in three had never or seldom had an orgasm, and just one tenth always achieved an orgasm. As you can see, orgasms are rare or non-existent for many women. A woman who cannot have an orgasm is similar to a man having an erectile disfunction.

So how can we change this, especially since today's women want orgasms. Well let's begin by exploring what a female orgasm really is.  Woman experiencing an orgasm is much like that in men-there is a surge of emotion, marking a moment of incredible enjoyment, and a throbbing, twitchy sensation that extends throughout the body.  Rythmicpulsations take place within the area of the pelvis including the walls of the vagina. Another difference here is that women don't have to have a recovery period, and will usually be able to have multiple orgasms with continued clitoral stimulation, often within a minute or two. In most women, there is no fluid ejaculated during orgasm.  This is an important fact for men to know, so as to not feel like they have not pleasured their woman, or make them feel inadequate because they don't.

With the right stimulation, most women can have multiple orgasms if they so desire.

Women are physiologically pickier than men when it comes to achieving an orgasm. For instance:

1) They need to feel wanted, and appreciated a romantic atmosphere
3) A person they click with
4) Being at ease
5) The right degree if clitoral stimulation – not to rough, not too easy

You will not have great success in giving your partner orgasms if you fail to provide most of the above.

Men need to know that women can have different types of orgasms---the most common is the clitoral orgasm.  The clitoris may be stimulated in a few ways, but the most common are oral stimulation or hand manipulation. The clitoral orgasm can have fluid expelled or be dry, and leads to pulsations within the uterus . Another type of orgasm is called the G Spot. The G spot is tougher to zero in on: it is located on the upper side of the vagina – about one half way in. In most women the G-spot is about 3 inches into the vagina, and on the upper side.  Firm pressure is needed to find the G spot in its non-stimulated state.  It feels like a spongy area about the size of a small bean. The location and size varies somewhat from woman to woman.  A vaginal orgasm will usually occur if the G-spot is appropriately stimulated.

Figure 1, Internal Female Anatomy:




In summation, an orgasm is a wonderful thing that will provide both partners with intense pleasure. The following can help you to help your female partner have orgasms regularly:

1) Women like affection---use your hands, and or mouth to caress her body be gentle, especially when touching her genitals, or rubbing her clitoris
3) Use your tongue and lips to stimulate and gently suckle her breasts
4) Slow and easy is the only way to win this race
5) Verbalize, ask for feedback
6) Be a tease- touching her pleasurable spots then withdrawing over, and over again. This will build arousal, and heighten orgasm.
7) Use your own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris – however she may need additional lubrication, you can buy lubricants at any drugstore.
8) Learn her body- does her nipples get hard only during arousal or are they like that at other times
9) Experiment: try different things
10) Don't make demands: this could spoil the moment

All men, can use this as a guide to helping your women have a more pleasurable experience, and helping her achieve many orgasms.

If you are an unsatisfied woman – convince your partner to read this article, after all, your future happiness is at stake!

Good Luck!
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Women Prefer Bad Dudes

The University of British Columbia (that’s in Canada folks), did a study of just over 1000 people divided evenly between men and women of all ages, and found some rather surprising results. (American Psychological Association Journal "Emotion")
http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/2011-10737-001/

The study had the people look at pictures of people of the opposite sex who had neutral expressions, looked happy, looked shameful, looked proud, or looked brooding. The participants were asked to rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1 to 9.

All women tended to prefer proud, successful looking men, and younger women also rated shameful and brooding men very highly. For some reason, all age groups were not that attracted to pictures of men who were happy.

Pride tends to convey high status, so it is easy to see the attraction. With the nurturing nature of most women there is a natural tendency to look for a good provider to hook up with. Brooding bad boys are also quite attractive to younger women because in their hearts, they know they are brooding because they have not found the right woman and assume they will help them overcome that fault.

Bringing this back to our cave man days, a man that was a good provider was a good hunter and had a lot of skins around to keep him warm, thus showing his success. A bad ass dude would be able to take the riches from a good hunter, and thus could also provide. Ideally a good hunter who could kick the ass of any bad dude who tried to rob him would be doubly desirable.

Men on the other hand find happiness and laughter in women the most attractive trait, while pride is a turn off. The happiness makes sense, because most guys put up with crap on the job all day and just do not want to face it at night as well.

Women with a shameful expression were also somewhat attractive to men. After all, if they have something to be ashamed about, maybe they can get them in the sack.

Using our cave man analogy again, what cave man in his right mind would want to come home from a hard day hunting animals and find that the wife had already cooked a meal from a rabbit she killed with a stone and roots she had already dug up – makes him look second rate after all.

So what can we derive from this study:

1) For Guys, you need to be a successful looking hard-ass dude with glitter and attitude.
2) For Women, you want to be seen as happy go lucky, never complain, and never put your man down.

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